Some men are crafty on the issue of gender discrimination. No force on partners to get rid of female fetuses. On the outside they are the modern dad. Open minded. Happy prospective fathers to either gender. Supportive and understanding husbands in the presence of their partners. You would think they are the typical role models for our society. They shower their partners with ‘affection’ and ‘love’. They will run around to source and surround their partners with gifts. They are so smart never to expose their hypocrisy.
Yet inside they cringe. Their heart filled with anger and vile. In their hearts and minds they curse the day they became aware of the child’s gender. Inside their hearts it is an unwritten rule that fatherhood without a male child is null. Their culture requires men to carry over their name and inheritance. To them it is imperative that at least one of the child be male. In private conversations with their peers they swear and curse their partners. They feel betrayed and trapped by marriage. They are so desperate for a male child.
I know of a man who pretended to fondly love his daughters. However, inside he was vicious and burning. Marriage without a male child was not an option in his mind and yet he never publicly acted that way. Deceit was the life he was living. His ‘happiness’ had no roots in him. He was acting along. Every one and half years the wife was pregnant. Nature had it otherwise. daughters kept coming. Thrilled outside. Inside dying. She loved kids and a large family. So her love for kids blinded her to the deceit. Her partner could not stop without hitting the bull’s-eye.
It took 8 attempts for the woman to bear a son. Would it surprise you that the birth of the son marked the end of pregnancies. With the birth of the son the man considered the family large enough. She was too trusting to see into the deceit. This woman was brave. She had complications from pregnancy number 4 but kept sacrificing for the good of the family. Thinking both partners genuinely wanted large family she had the courage to carry out the family dream.
What really pleased the man was the birth of the male child. I do not want to imagine how many more pregnancies the woman would have been sweet talked into in the name of ‘loving a large family’. I am not against large families. Partners have to make their choices. I am against deceit. I am against exploiting an unsuspecting partner. I am against fake relationships with daughters. Daughters like any other child deserve genuine affection from their fathers.
Being deceitful makes a man fail to recognize that they live in mental slavery . It is a slavery of living with expectations one will never show to their loved one. They can never openly express their desires which are out of line with modernity. If you are one such man living in deceit, you need professional help. Not only do such an unexpressed desires compromise the father/daughter relationship, but endangers the life of the woman who unknowingly becomes a ‘bearing object’. Fathers and daughters start bonding from the time of conception. If a man has fake bond during pregnancy that falsehood will not stop at the birth of the child. The false relationship will carry into the lives of the daughters. Deceit and pretense is a bad way of starting a life long bond with your daughters.
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